Disordered eating, and how the Enneagram can help
In this week’s Enneatalk Tuesday I dig into a very important subject, one that many of you have asked me to discuss—eating habits. I break down each Enneagram type by their fears, desires, and motivations and how these apply to food. I talk about how eating habits can look if you’re healthy and how they may look if you are using food for comfort or control.
I share my own story about how this tool has helped me during my health journey and how you can use it to not only become more aware of your habits, but to discover motives behind disordered eating.
If you have over-consumed yourself with thoughts about food, know first that you are not alone, that you are safe, and that you are beautiful. Listen to this episode to learn the power of the pause, and how it can help you learn compassion, honor, and love for yourself.
Coping with your environment
We are all born with unique gifts and dispositions but your environment and trauma can determine how they get expressed. Many of us, including myself, turn to food for comfort, support, control, or use as a coping method to deal with stress and trauma in our lives.
If you are struggling or overthinking food, it’s important to stop and understand what is driving this—to know that you are not self-sabotaging but instead trying to protect yourself.
Perspective, motive, and growth
If you are ready to make a change, attempting to address an issue by changing only the habit results in a short-term fix. The key to understanding disordered eating is to find the root of why it is happening, to learn the motive behind it, to understand and have perspective in check—when this occurs you can have long-term success and growth. I discuss how the Enneagram can help do this when used correctly.
You deserve peace and joy
Although you may have had these habits for years, it is not too late to take back control, to understand where it comes from. Don’t let food steal more joy from your life, or let it rob you of more experiences. Know that you can reach out, ask for help, and that you are in a secure place. Most of all, know that you are safe, supported, and that you are loved.
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Quick Access To Quotes:
- We are all born with our unique gifts and disposition and temperament and how that gets expressed as life goes on a lot depends on the environment, parenting, trauma. 1:24
- A lot of our vanity comes from how our body looks, how we show up for the world has to do with our confidence, and that comes from how we think we look 3:30
- You might be triggered but I want you to know you’re safe you’re supported you’re loved. 4:50
- When I really understood who I was and what my core desires, fears, and motivations were, it was a lot easier to lean into compassion for myself and break some disordered habits around food. 5:16
- They tend to overeat for feeling love-starved 9:40
- Power of the pause and really saying what is this about—HALT-hungry angry lonely tired? 10:15
- Can be highly detached from the comforting or euphoric aspects of food 12:10
- Artistic taste buds and use food to heighten their emotions and create an identity—basic fear is that they have no identity or significance 16:50
- Can sometimes forget to eat or become incessant snackers 20:45
- It’s one thing to change the habit but if you don’t really condition the motive behind it that’s how you fall back into old habits 23:30
- They can become frugal favorite feaster they rarely will go out of their norm —they know what works and what doesn’t…Constricted palette and unwillingness to explore, they have anxious tummies 24:45
- Under express rational thinking and have childish desires towards food and food choices and want one of anything and more prone than others in overestimating their hunger 28:25
- Compassion and understanding that this is something you have picked up in your life to fill a void to feel safe 32:30
- Lustful indulger uncompromising craver… keenly aware of their desires 34:47
- Stopping yourself and understand that motive is driving this it’s not that you are sabotaging yourself—there is nothing wrong with any of us we just need to get to the key behind the motive behind our coping methods 38:40
- Become oblivious over-eater and unconscious gorger or have passive pallets—can be out of touch with their instincts or food impulses 39:20
- Holy eater and guilty cheater, all or nothing, striving to be so good all the time and that is not sustainable so they can underexpose their bodies instincts 43:45
- Food is probably the most widely used drug and most misunderstood one 48:20
- Really been focusing on motives rather than focusing on habits and patterns…when you really have perspective and motives in check ironically the food doesn’t become the issue anymore 53:20