We’re already halfway through January—can you believe it?⁣⁣
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Maybe you were one of those people who started off 2021 by saying “I’m gonna do a bunch of epic shit this year.” Then you went on social media or were chatting with friends and all of a sudden the comparison kicked in—and you went into self-sabotage, shame, isolation, or burnout.⁣⁣
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Listen now⁣⁣
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At the beginning of January, I was feeling it too.⁣⁣
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I woke up one day and was feeling blue—and I wasn’t sure why.⁣⁣
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I tend to work a lot and don’t take enough time to play. That’s because early on in my life when I played, things went bad. But now I have all the proof in the world that when I play more, I make more.⁣⁣
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Even though I know this, I still resist it.⁣⁣
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That’s because I fall into the trap of the “doing more means I make more” mindset. And this is a common theme for us all, although it doesn’t look the same for everyone.⁣⁣
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When going into comparison mode, one of the things that allows me to keep myself in check are the Stances.⁣⁣
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The Stances define our social style of how we get what we want or need.⁣⁣
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It’s a look at how we move through the world based on the wounding we experienced in childhood.⁣⁣
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What happens is we lose the ability to balance all three of your intelligence centers: the thinking, feeling and doing. This leads to one of those centers being more repressed than the others.⁣⁣
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By knowing your Stance for your type, you’ll learn how to tap into your repressed center.⁣⁣

Quotes:

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When I play more, I make more.

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When we can understand the “why” and the motive behind what we do, the chances of us leaning into compassion, empathy, love, grace, really kick in.

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1’s move towards what will earn them autonomy by following the rules and doing what’s right.

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2’s move towards what will earn them praise and acceptance by focusing on helping others.

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6’s move towards what will help them feel safe and certain by building a secure environment and aligning themselves with the group.

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To grow in anything, we usually have to do the opposite thing of what our natural reaction is to crisis.

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3’s move against what’s in the way of their goals.

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7’s move against what gets in their way of happiness.

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8’s move against what gets in the way of their agenda.

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Stream of consciousness journaling is a valuable technique to flesh out the repressed emotions. 

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