I used to be the most reactionary person in the world.
There are two different types of people in this world: the thermostats and the thermometers.
Be the thermostat.
For the longest time I operated as a thermometer: The reading changed based on my environment, allowing outside circumstances to dictate what the thermometer—aka I—said and did.
But if you’re a thermostat, you can set yourself to a cool 75 degrees no matter how hot it gets outside. The goal for you? Become a thermostat, not a thermometer.
Don’t let your circumstances control your outcome.
Regardless of your circumstances, YOU CAN stay driven; in the face of hard situations, YOU CAN stay confident.
If you walk into a cold room, you can heat it up. When it’s raining outside, you can still go for your run. And if you lose your job, you can still see your dream.
Life can change at the drop of a dime.
2020 has taught us this, and it hasn’t discriminated against anyone. But no matter what happens, if you’re the thermostat, you’re cool and steady.
The Enneagram has helped me do this. How? Being an 8, I recognize my temperature will rise like a thermometer when I feel like my vulnerability is going to be risked. When I can feel this happening, it’s an indicator that I need to check my thermostat and ask myself: What’s really happening right now? You can apply it similarly.
There are two types of people in the world, honestly that you can be they are the thermostats and the thermometers.
The goal for you is to become a thermostat and not a thermometer.
If 2020 has taught us anything, it’s that life can change at a drop of a dime.
No matter how sh*tty your circumstance gets, we always have control of some sort of solution.
How we handle it and how we set the tone is everything.
When you are (enneagram) typed properly you have your own little road map to keep you on track .
One of the things I’ve heard Tony Robbins say “If you’re not growing you’re dying”.
Information doesn’t equal transformation.
Having a guide take you there, it’s pretty powerful how fast you can move the needle and set your thermostat and stay there.
To remain a thermostat in parenting is probably the biggest reason why my kids feel safe talking to me about everything and anything.