You’ve built a life that screams “unshakeable.”
And yet, there’s that one moment .. that one person … you can’t seem to shake.
You don’t talk about it.
You tell yourself it doesn’t matter.
But it’s still in the room with you … every time you make a decision, every time you let someone in, every time you start to trust again.
You’ve called it moving on. I call bullshit.
You’ve had that moment —..the one where someone you trusted went too far. Maybe they betrayed your confidence, maybe they blindsided you in business, maybe they simply disappeared when you needed them most.
And sure, you could stay angry. You could write them out of your story, turn the hurt into fuel, and get back to crushing your goals.
But if you’re honest?
The wound is still there.
It’s under the surface, but it’s running the show.
It’s showing up in the way you second-guess people.
It’s bleeding into your decisions.
It’s closing off parts of you that used to make you magnetic.
Forgiveness isn’t something you’ve considered a power move … maybe you’ve even thought of it as weakness.(I get this real deep) But I’m telling you, it’s the opposite. Forgiveness is the sharpest advantage you’ve been overlooking.
Not because it erases what happened or cosigns any bullshit.
Not because it keeps them in your life.
And definitely not because it drops your boundaries.
Forgiveness is what clears the noise so you can think straight again.
It’s what gives you your time, energy, and focus back.
It’s what lets you lead without the chip on your shoulder calling the shots.
The problem?
Most high performers like you are experts at avoiding forgiveness. You disguise it as strategy, productivity, or “just moving on,” but underneath, the wound stays open.
For some, it’s anger as armor … staying mad feels safer than risking another hit.
For others, it’s hyper-productivity …burying yourself in goals so you never have to look at what’s still raw.
And sometimes, it’s emotional shutdown … going numb because feeling it might crack you open.
Or maybe it’s a messy mash up of all of them….gulp.
Sound familiar?
Here’s where the Enneagram comes in.
Not everyone gets cut by the same knife. What barely registers for them can take you out at the knees. … because it’s hitting your root fear.
If you’re a One, it’s about being wrong or defective.
If you’re an Eight, it’s about being controlled or betrayed.
If you’re a Four, it’s about losing your identity.
When you can name exactly what’s been triggered, you can stop reacting to the surface story and start dealing with the real one. You can pull it up by the root instead of trimming the weeds.
And that’s when forgiveness stops feeling impossible …and starts feeling like your own personal Independence Day.
(I break down all the enneagram types in this weeks episode on The Enneagram Edge..)
I’m not saying it’s easy.
I’m saying it’s worth it.
When you finally let go … not bypassing it, not minimizing it, but actually moving through it…something shifts.
The grip you have on the anger loosens.
The need to replay the scene, rewrite the ending, prove your point… it all goes quiet.
And in that quiet, there’s space.
Space to see the lesson.
Space to take the next step without the weight of the last one.
Space to lead, love, and live without letting that moment own you.
That’s the Enneagram Edge in forgiveness.
It doesn’t make you naïve. It makes you available … for what’s next, and for who you’re becoming.
And if you want to know the truth…
that’s the sharpest edge you can carry.
If you’re ready to take it with me:
Join me for Enneagram Edge Foundations.
Level One is where you learn to use the Enneagram as a skilled map .. not a personality party trick. You’ll uncover the exact wiring that’s been running the show for you, and learn how to navigate it with precision in leadership, relationships, and yes… forgiveness.
The next live, small-cohort round starts September 3rd.
If you want to move forward with clarity, power, and presence, this is where we start.
Learn more about Enneagram Edge Foundations →HERE
So if you’re still holding on .. to the anger, the resentment, the replay … hear me HERE:
You are not weak for wanting to let it go.
You are not naïve for opening your heart again.
And you are not defined by what happened to you.
You are defined by what you choose to do next.
And the next step? That’s yours.
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